Weekend with the In-laws

Another Weekend with the Family

 

Grand Canyon

This picture is from the grand canyon. It comes on the jump drive you get when you buy the pictures at the Skywalk. It’s really neat, if you’re ever out that way. This picture really captures the peacefulness of spending time with the ones I love.

This weekend was another weekend spent with the family. Things haven’t been going too well at work. Mostly because of the whole raise (or lack thereof) situation. I’ve been turning down overtime and not working weekends, which is unusual for me. Upper management is starting to take notice and my immediate manager questioned me (again) about my attitude.

I’ve been trying real hard to prevent the company’s lack of communication about compensation from affecting my overall disposition and performance at work. It would seem as though I haven’t been too successful in my efforts. Basically, I’m still upset that they have yet to even address the raise situation. If they’re not going to reward my (or anyone else’s) efforts with a raise, then the least that we should expect is for them to address the issue. It’s already the middle of March. We completed our reviews in October. They’ve had plenty of time.

But, like I said, I’m not going to continue to sacrifice and spend extended periods of time away from my family if they’re not going to reward my efforts. So, I’ve cut back on accepting any overtime or weekend work. I did, recently, accept an offer from my manager to handle a new account’s roll-out for new cctv equipment installation. But that was just me trying to be a team player and not causing someone else to have to pick up my slack, which is what would have happened.

Because I’m cutting back, I have more time to spend with my family. That, is a VERY GOOD THING! It’s the only good thing that’s come of this situation.

Enough of my whining!

The wife and I took the kids over to my sister’s house and spent the weekend with the cousins and my brother in law. My brother in law is a great guy and we really don’t get to spend as much time together as I would like. I don’t have any brothers and he’s probably the closest thing to that.

There aren’t any kids in our neighborhood that are close in age to my children so they don’t get to play with other kids often. They really enjoy playing with their cousins. With everything that seems to be going bad right now, from the economy right on down to, you name it. It’s nice to be able to get away with family for a little while and just forget about the chaos of life going on around us.

I hope any and every person that reads this post has a good family to fall back on. I truly wouldn’t know what to do without mine.

I hope everyone can get away every once in a while. A little quality time with the people you love can fix just about anything. I should know, I’m a repairman!

Fun Weekend Getaway

Fun weekend getaway for the family, with the fishes!

Shamu Jumping!

This weekend I was able to getaway with the family to SeaWorld. It was a great time. We stop by a couple times a year and the kids just love all the animals. They’re currently revamping their penguin exhibit so that was kind of a let down because it was closed off for construction. But everything else was open and we had a blast!

My oldest is at that age where he has a thousand questions about everything and I was struggling all weekend just to keep up. I have never imagined myself as a know-it-all, but having kids has really helped me realize how much I don’t know. My little guy seemed to only ask questions that I couldn’t answer. It was almost as if he would start a line of questioning and once he detected some lack of knowledge on my part, he honed in on that topic. It was fun and I’m picking up a book on whales first thing tomorrow.

They were doing some kind of BBQ event and we took full advantage of all the booths. I can’t remember the last time I ate so much. I love bbq, my wife isn’t a big fan but she will eat it and my oldest son will only eat chicken fingers. That being said, those guys selling the bbq made a few bucks off me and it was all good. They even had live music. You really haven’t jammed until you’ve heard a country band do a R&B cover of Baby Got Back. It was hilarious! But, everyone seemed to like it so I kept my thoughts to myself.

Dolphins Jumping!

The kids enjoyed the animals and asking me questions I couldn’t answer. I enjoyed the bbq and the heartburn that followed (small price to pay). And, my wife enjoyed taking pictures. She LOVES taking pictures of the family on any and all outings. I can’t post my family pics here for obvious reasons but I will post some shots of the animals. Later this year, during the summer, we hope to go to their other park and swim with the dolphins. We’ll see.

Cool Backflip!

This little getaway was a real stress reliever. Sometimes when things are going bad or I’m losing sight of what really matters, it’s helpful to just get away with the family and focus on what really matters. I didn’t think about anything that was bothering these previous weeks while I was out with the family this weekend. And that’s just what I needed. Maybe it’s what everyone needs.

My Weekend. Not Very Exciting.

Well, I’m a homebody. This is probably what my wife (and friends) understand least about me. I know it bothers my wife that I’m happy sitting at home inside all weekend but it relaxes me.

After 10 years of marriage my wife still doesn’t understand that I like being alone. I love my family and friends but I’m really happiest when I’m alone. I know it’s selfish and I make an effort to keep it under control. What I’ve tried to explain to my wife is that I’m “out” all week long, sometimes up to 13 or 14 hours a day. I’m dealing with people and traffic all day long. There’s a lot of city driving that comes with my job. When I’m finished working and on those rare weekends that I don’t have to work I don’t want to go out.

She still takes it personal. Which brings me to Friday. I worked late Friday. Until about 7 pm. I had mentioned, on Wednesday, in passing to my closest friend AJ that maybe we could get together on Friday for a few beers.

This guy has been my closest friend for about the last 8 years. He knows me as good as anyone but even he doesn’t get that I like being alone. He’s leaving in a few months and will be out of the country for about a year. We’re running out of time for a last little get together and I found out too late Friday that that’s what he had in mind.

Friday he calls late in the afternoon saying that he has the grill fired up and beer ready to go. He’d bought a gift for my kid and wanted to give it to me. This was late notice and I wasn’t sure how late I was going to be working. Turns out I worked pretty late for a Friday. I didn’t make it to his place and he took it personal. Problem wasn’t the time so much as the notice. I hadn’t told my wife, I was just going to swing by and have a few beers if time allowed.

It wasn’t too late to stop by his place but I couldn’t because I didn’t tell my wife and I couldn’t spring it on her at the last minute. I eventually saw him on Saturday and we hung out for a couple hours but when I invited him out to eat he balked. He made up an excuse about having to get home. He gave me the gift for my kid and we parted.

Now he’s leaving soon and I’ve got limited time to patch up any damage I did by being lazy. I should have stopped by his place on Friday. Even though I knew I wouldn’t be able to stay longer than 20 mins or so, I should have stopped by. Because I prefer to be alone I make excuses for myself and end up hurting people close to me that I care about.

So, that’s how my weekend started on Friday. I worked Saturday until about 5 and then met up with my friend AJ. After our little get together I went home.

Sunday came and I didn’t go outside once. I spent most of my time watching movies. I didn’t see anything worth talking about.

I’ve been down a little since Friday. I feel really bad about not going by AJ’s place. I should have stopped by. I’m sure that since Wednesday, when we spoke, he’d given me clues about his plans. My mom always said I couldn’t take a hint. People have to come out and just say what they want around me or I’ll never know.

I really need to work on being a better friend and my people reading skills. I don’t want to hurt my best friend because I’m lazy and insecure.

On top of all that, I still caught grief from my wife when I got home on Friday.

Can’t win for losing.